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Mystery's New VH-1 Series: GAME OVER?

VH-1 is going to debut "The Pickup Artist" in a little more than two weeks.  For the first time, the mainstream will get to see, up-close, the seduction techniques that have caught fire over the internet for the past ten years.  One reason these methods caught fire, however, is that they worked so well, and one reason they worked well was that very few men learned them.  Now everyone and his brother seems to have "game."

There's a saying in the stock market that if your cabdriver tells you to buy, it's time to sell all your holdings.  I suspect the same is true if he thinks he can "game" women.  The collective intelligence of men is about to increase sharply, and this will make it more difficult to stand out or to exploit the weaknesses of your rivals.  That flower-sending, drooling AFC with money who could have gotten your girlfriend with even a modicum of game will now have that game.

The most interesting reaction to the VH-1 show will come from those PUAs who are in an LTR with a woman who watches the show with them and sees the lines he used played out on screen. 

GAME OVER? Feminists Finally Take PUAs Seriously

The article on Pickup Artists from the feminist "Thinking Girl" blog has generated a record number of responses for that site.  In it she discusses the feminist view of the typical PUA, which is predictably negative (though likely justifiable). 

The article opens with "Sam sent me a link to this article, in Aussie online mag The Age, which is all about these men who earn their living teaching other men to be smarmy in bars and other social events. I post it as fair warning to women: men are willing to pay someone to teach them how to trick you into thinking they are charming so they can get into your pants. And some men are willing to take that money."

You can stop reading there to find the problem that women face when confronted by those "evil pickup artists" they claim to hate.  The "thinking girl" acts like this is a new threat, even though the internet community she trashes has been online since 1998 and before.  A nine-year reaction time is glacial on the internet, and just as the "thinking girl" is espousing counter-tactics for the women, a new breed of men will develop counter-counter measures, most likely involving disowning the community themselves.  This will lead to another round of women being used, another round of books, websites, seminars, and so forth, and another article in ten years from another "thinking girl" about how the evil pickup artists are now being nice guys, to where we might see that famous commercial reworded: "If a man you've never met before suddenly gives you flowers, call the cops!"

I agree with a lot of what Thinking Girl says about the need for women to wise up to these men, but she should examine what took her so long to wise up herself.  It seems that once she saw an article in the corporate media, she snapped to attention.  Is she saying other men didn't try to warn her before?  I've had anti-PUA books out since 1999, figuring women would find the information useful.  I released Why Hotties Choose Losers in 2004, and that book is a blueprint for ripping apart the pickup artist's tactics.  I suppose if I had gotten a writeup in The Age, she might have noticed, but if she waits for the media for her cues, she's going to be forever three steps behind the PUA men who find the information much earlier because they go out looking for it themselves and don't need "social proof" (another PUA tactic) from the media to take it seriously, instead judging it on its own merit.

The other problem Thinking Girl will have is explaining to men why they should give up sex with hot women in the name of doing the right thing.  She says in the comments that it's "not her responsibility to offer alternatives" to the PUA, instead saying he should "do the right thing" or whatever and just not "trick" women into bed.  That's a lovely fairy-tale thought, but unless everyone plays by the rules, the few who do will be eaten alive by those who don't.  Thinking Girl and her fans have no difficulty understanding this when advocating feminism.  They claim, perhaps correctly, that they can't play nice against their oppressors, yet ignore the nice guys who say the same thing about women. 

The PUAs are usually guys who were told to "be themselves" and to be good men, and most of all, that women like decent men and choose them over the "badboys."  The man who buys into this and lives his life by the rules, respecting women and treating them well, first gets walked on by the women who don't appreciate his good character or good intentions, and then gets walked on again by the Thinking Girls of the world, who tell him that he's not really a nice guy if he expects to get laid for it, and that his intentions are no different than the PUA.  I strongly disagree, because the nice guy is usually looking for a WIFE, while the PUA is looking to use and discard one woman after another.  The nice guy wants to build a family, and should not be made ashemed of displaying behavior that is conducive to raising children, such as being hard-working and law-abiding.  Of course he wants sex with pretty women; he's biologically programmed to.  It's a slap in the face to tell him that his good behavior is manipulative after telling him for years it was the key to finding that dream woman.

The feminists who attack the PUAs are going to run into a wall very quickly when they are forced to address that their advice to nice guys never works and never has worked, and that telling them to accept a life of celibacy or second-rate women is not going to encourage them to change their ways, nor should it.  If men should play by the rules, so should women, and that means that the promise that the best man wins should be fulfilled, with the "best" women going to the "best" men.  If you notice, however, the women already do this, calling the men who "can't get women" names like "bitter" or "loser," while describing other men as perfectly simply because they choose to have sex with them. 

I can assure these women, the PUAs, and anyoen else, that God does not judge men based on their ability to get laid.  As for the women, if they didn't reward the bad behavior they complain about, they would have the men they claim to want, which begs the question of how women can claim not to want these PUAs if they keep choosing them after the PUA playbook has been published by Neil Strauss (The Game), with more examples soon to follow on reality shows like VH-1's "The Pickup Artist."

Anti-Game: Unraveling The Mystery Of The Jerk

"The Game" has changed the American mating game indelibly, as much as anything since the Hite Report, the Kinsey study, or even Darwin's work on sexual selection.  Neil Strauss has documented the state of American "hookup" rituals, emerging with a blueprint for how today's "pickup artists" get women.  Men all over are having an epiphany as they unravel the "Mystery" of that previously invisible "boyfriend" of the beautiful women they wanted.  Mystery, also the name of the man who, according to Style, is the "World's Greatest PUA," however, was slightly different in the flesh than the way the women described him.

Every "nice guy" has been dealing with guys like Mystery since his early teens.  Mystery was the invisible wall that would make progress with beautiful women impossible, the man who occupied her thoughts, the man for whom she has one set of rules, while for you she has another.  If pressed about his existence, she'll deny it unless she cannot (like if she's seen with him or he's forced to interact with you through her), in which case she'll deny the true nature of their relationship.  Usually she'll claim either that he is her bofyriend, even if he is seeing other women (something Mystery advocates as "MLTR"), or she'll say he's a "friend" if she's not allowed to call him a boyfriend, and deny that they are fucking.  Mystery will do his part to preserve his sex supply by going along with the "secret society" charade in order to keep her reputationi intact.  Bottom line: He gets laid, she gets a pass on her reputation and any scrutiny, and you get FUCKED. 

While she is fucking Mystery, he'll own her world, and any thoughts she has of fucking any man.  She'll be captivated by his charm (and now his fame and money), and she'll *expect* other women to want him, which will make her compete for him only more.  The same woman who tells a nice guy that he has to jump through hoops and walk on eggs forever just to maybe one day get a chance, requiers nothing more of Mystery than the mere hope that one day she might be able to tame him.  A few dozen lay reports for Mystery go by, she realizes she's not going to tame him, gets frustrated, and winds up "dumping" a man she never really had in the first place.  While she's doing all this, she placates the nice guy with the occasional complment, and her attention in the event she needs a favor from him, and tells him to "be himself" and "be patient," because one day that "right woman" will show up out of nowhere.  When you act like you believe her, she thinks to herself how stupid you are, how you "don't get it" and then she has a good laugh in bed with Mystery before his fifteenth blow-job of the evening.

You, the nice guy, ask yourself "How is this possible?"  You're what she claims she wants in a guy, yet she shows absolutely no interest in you, calling you a "good friend" or saying you're "like a brother" to her, or some other bullshit that you eat up and are all too willing to settle for, the mere *hope* of one day getting laid.  Never mind that if she ever had to go a week without sex involuntarily she'd piss and moan so the whole world could hear.  Since she sees herself as special, the guy she's fucking as a "winner," and you as a clueless loser, to her, this is how the world is supposed to be, and you certainly aren't doing anything to change her mind.  She can get everything she wants from you without having to give up sex, and she knows that Mystery will be on to another woman if she doesn't put out, and quickly and often.  While she would call you shallow if you ever tried to fuck her (since you'd only want "one thing"), she accepts this from Mystery and worries more if he will find her pretty enough than if he is shallow for how he is judging her.

What "The Game" did was put men like Mystery front and center.  He is no longer invisible, and this is very useful to the AFC (average frustrated chump), since now he knows what he is up against, and he knows what women (allegedly) find more attractive than him.  Not only that, but Mystery has also proven that a "seduction guru" can get wealthy very quickly, so now the stakes are not only love and sex, but the money that comes with being a man who has sex with multiple hotties.  This adds yet another slap in the face to the AFC, because not only does he lose the woman to Mystery, he also loses the fame and fortune that comes with being the guy who "gets women."  Women, meanwhile, tell the AFC that he is the better man, while giving all of the rewards of being a better man to the man whose treatment of women she claims to despise. 

The one advantage the AFC has in all of this is that a hottie needs to protect her reputation.  It is important to her that the world perceive her as being virtuous, and as a woman who appreciates a good man.  To accomplish this, she constructs a totally false "good girl" existence, will lash out at you if you call her a liar for doing so, and she will engage in "secret society" behavior with men who prove themselves smart enough to play along with the charade, part of which involves lying to you about being sexually unavailable and draining your time and money in return for nothing.  Only when she winds up discarded by the Mysterys of the world will she consider changing, and will usually be temporarily contrite until the next player comes along.  Sometimes, during this period, she will show a fleeting interest in you, only to lose interest as soon as she repeats her last mistake.  You can sometimes get rebound sex if you exploit this window (generally you'll have a few days at most, sometimes only one or two), but for the most part, your best option for remaining a "nice guy" and still getting what you want is to run a form of "split game."

By "split game" I am talking about American men who run one type of game on American women, and another type on foreign women.  American men are sexual royalty in many parts of the world, because we are relatively wealthy, and we have the potential to bring a woman here so that she can obtain residency or citizenship status.  That is a gold mine to a foreign golddigger, and a lot less expensive than an American golddigger.  It is not that foreign women are more likely to be golddiggers than American women, they just have lower price tags.  A guy who earns an average income in America will not stand out financially, so he will not see just how many women are for sale to rich men.  Abroad, however, he will be wealthier than 99 percent of available men and have his pick of the litter.  This is the first step in establishing split game, because once you are prepared to use the "foreign option," you can run the second part of your split game on American women, since you will never again be something she can call a "loser who can't get laid."  This makes you immune to rejection from American women, and that's when the fun begins. 

The "Challenge Fox" is something I've written about extensively in my books (see my profile link for a link to my website which sells them and gives away some of them), and refers to women who show sexual interest in a man only because she has been "challenged" not to.  This works very well online because you can communicate through your profile or MySpace page, and this puts the burden of first contact on her, since she would have to "approach" you to comment on your views.  For example, in my AOL profiles I have often put that I don't pursue American women (true, since they have to pursue me), and that I find foreign women superior.  American women of course want to "defend" themselves, and if you're dealing with a super-hottie, you have already won the battle because she is trying to win you over to get you to give "American women" (her) a chance, whereas if you had approached her normally, she would have deemed you unworthy.  What has happened is that she realizes you can get hotties in other countries, and since you know about this, she also realizes that you don't care if she rejects you or not, and this takes all of the fun out of doing so for her.  She then has to relate to you normally, and if you hold the frame by being skeptical of her because she is an American woman, she will continue to try to validate herself to you, sometimes all the way to the bedroom.

With "The Game" you can use anti-game to add to your split game, by discussing the book with the women here.  Point out that if you had some hotties for girlfriends, you could get rich like Mystery, so women who turn you down here are costing you millions in addition to "breaking your heart," etc.  Use the examples in the book (and the seduction websites in general) to show her why you gave up on American women.  Tell her things like you'd rather go to a country where you can be a nice guy and still get a beautiful woman than to stay here and become like Mystery.  You don't have to dwell on it, since part of the split game is not making advances on American women, so any continuation of the argument will have to be initiated by her.  If she gets mad, hold your ground, but also act like you really don't care because you aern't trying to change her or the world, but rather are just doing what you have to do to look out for yourself (something a golddigger can always relate to).

If she tries to push the issue by saying she's "not like that," you can point out that you didn't know she was an option (if she denies being an option then what she's like doesn't matter), and if she tries to blame you or your attitude, you can still be thankful that the women overseas don't seem to mind you as you are.  If she tells you to lower your standards, you can show her pictures of beautiful women from other countries and remind her that you don't have to. 

Finally, if she plays her trump card and says those women are whores and golddiggers, you can "neg" her (and other American hotties) by explaining that you already know this, but that American women are no different beyond the much higher price tag.  If she says you are wrong, you can point out to her what is available to wealthy American men, and ask her if she knows anyone who is willing to do the same for you without you having to be rich.  If not, well, that just again proves why going overseas is a superior option.  This leaves her with three options: 1) fuck you herself; 2) do as much as she can to hook you up with another hottie; or 3) lose the argument.  3) is usually not an option with most hotties, so they'll try for 2) and resort to 1) if they have to, telling their friends that "things changed" when all that really changed is that she realized you weren't the clueless loser she thought you were.

The key to running split game is disenfranchisement.  A disenfranchised AFC is an AFC who doesn't have to part with time or resources in the futile pursuit of a hottie.  You no longer have to open your mind, your heart or your wallet to these hotties who would rather be part of an MLTR with Mystery than a loving relationship with you.  You can then stop being a "financial slut" (see my previous post in this topic), close your station on her gravy train, and while you haven't gotten laid by her (yet), she is the one who actually loses something, namely your friendship and your money.  As I've explained to hotties who seem to think they have a right to my money or my time, "I don't pay to get other men laid."  If she's going to fuck Mystery and not me, let her get her money, attention, and everything else she needs from him.  If I lift even a finger for her, I am making Mystery's job easier by meeting her needs.

As Mystery himself would tell you, it pays to have respect for yourself and standards.  Mystery is only a product of what women want in men, because every time they fuck him or a guy like him, they validate his existence and now make him wealthier because they create positive experiences for those who use his methods.  If they want to make royalty out of a man like that, they should stop expecting the AFC to play lapdog, and stop relying on him for resources, which they AFC should simply refuse to provide unless doing so will get him laid.  "No lay, no pay" is a good motto, and it should apply to hottie friends, pivots, "hired guns" that too many AFCs shower with tip money (giving them no need for money from the men they fuck, of course), and engage in financially slutty behavior that does little more than to fund the sex life of a player.  This is also true of the $20 cover charges at nightclubs where AFC men go to get blown off, and all of the money they spend in all forms of fruitless pursuit.  The split-game, challenge-fox approach is far more effective, and a lot less expensive.

Now you theoretically may have to one day exercise the foreign option, and you really can get a hottie that way, but more often than not, an American Challenge Fox will surface long before then in order to "prove" to you that "women aren't like that," even if by doing so she will be proving the exact opposite.

What to say if she blows you off

For unreturned calls or IMs, I've recently begun using the line "Don't make me cheat on you, girl!" 

The hotties eat this up because it shows you have game since you aren't begging her to talk to you, and you are letting her know that you know she's dissing you and that you don't believe her lame excuses. 

This is also good for setting a more sexual frame in your conversations with her, bringing the sexual tension to the surface.

Mystery to Appear on Dr. Phil

Dr. Phil will be doing a show on the seduction community, and I'm told that Mystery will be appearing on the show.  He did some experiments and generally trashed the PUAs, entitling the show "women beware."  Nice sentiment, but it doesn't assign much responsibility to the women, who are choosing these men and rejecting supposedly better men in the process. 

Does he expect women to suddenly want nice guys because they learn about game?  He almost seems to be arguing for sexual charity if he thinks women are going to "wise up" after being told what they already know.  The only thing the women will do is attempt to manage their reputations by prtending to be outraged, yet still finding time to choose these men.

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Are You A FINANCIAL SLUT?

Are you a FINANCIAL SLUT?

Over the past ten years, as I've written and published several books on seduction, books like the ones discussed in "The Game" by Neil Strauss, I have contemplated the role of money in seduction.  Generally, the focus on this has been restricted to men who equate getting rich with getting laid by hotties, and with good reason: rich men DO get laid.  Whether or not you approve of sex-for-moeny exchanges (direct or indirect) is not the issue here, however.  Instead, I'm focusing on a cancer that has infested the mating game since its inception, namely when men spend money in the hope of getting laid but do not get laid as a result.  The men who do this are what I call FINANCIAL SLUTS, and they are essentially traitors to their gender who deserve to be ostracized and treated like the adversaries they are. 

Financially slutty men are everywhere, and they cause the mating game to be more expensive than it should be, because they give away the store to hot women who would otherwise have to provide a fair value to the market.  Instead, we get rich men who spend large amounts of money on hot women, do not get laid, raise the price for other men to get laid, and, by making the hot women more independent, totally eliminate any incentive for hot women to put out.  The ripple effect created by financial sluts goes well beyond just getting sex, and trickles down into almost every aspect of entertainment and our social life. 

UGLY HOOKERS

Ever wonder why hookers are generally not very pretty?  That's because if they were hot, they wouldn't have to put out to make a good living as a stripper.  This is not the case in poor countries, where the women lack money to an extent where not putting out costs them, and they make money by charging rates that are high enough to earn them a good living (in their country) while making it worthwhile for wealthy tourists to make the trek to see them.  In Costa Rica, for example, a man can get himself a beauty queen for the night for as little as $100; in America, she might not even have to strip.  The reason you have ugly hookers in America is that financially slutty men remove all incentive for hot women to turn to prostitution, resulting in ugly, overpriced prostitutes.

PLAIN JANE STRIPPERS

The destruction wrought by financial sluts does not end with prostitution.  Our strippers are also uglier than they are in poorer or even other countries because financially slutty men give money to women who don't even strip, either in "dating" (where men pay for everything), or in the employment market, where women can earn more money working as hired eye candy in a law office than they would stripping in a club, and they can do so "respectably." 

So what we have is that by paying hot women to strip and not have sex, we create ugly, overpriced prostitutes, and by paying hot women to work regular jobs instead of stripping, we create ugly (or plain), overpriced strippers.  That $20 you paid for a lapdance may not seem significant to you, but it is one hair on the head of the creature that destroys the sexual marketplace for men who are not wealthy, just as the marriage market was destroyed for women who refused to have sex before marriage by those who chose to instead.  Men will not buy the cow when they are getting the milk for free, and women will not milk the cow if they are getting the money without having to provide the milk.

It would be one thing if all this money that were being given to women by men resulted in sex.  There's nothing wrong with a guy using his money to get a sure thing; there IS something wrong, however, with him using his money to get teased, not get laid, and in the process, "fund the bitchiness" of the woman who teased him.  Hot women have become so incredibly stuck up in the past 20 years because being that way is not unprofitable.  A hottie can be rude to every man but the one or two financial sluts who support her: her corporate sugar daddy (boss), who pays her because he wants eye candy in his office while he works, and any number of men in her personal and social life, all providing more and more resources to her, which allows her to offer nothing in return and not suffer for doing so.

The "seduction community" that Neil Strauss writes of has been overrun by financial sluts.  When it began, the "community" methods were not so well known, and men who used them stood out to the point that money seemed almost not to matter.  If this was ever the case, howevewr, it no longer is, as wealthy men are now getting "game" as easily as their more motivated competitors.  Part of why the poor PUA could defeat the wealthy AFC was that the AFC wasn't aware of his competition; this is no longer the case.  Because of this, several seduction gurus began adding new terminology, like "inner game" and "lifestyle," and tried to pass these concepts off as if they were part of "game."  Finally, they just came out and said it: MONEY IS PART OF GAME.  How convenient that they said this only *after* they had made tons of moeny teaching men that they didn't need money to have game.  Now, you have many seduction gurus whose only "game" consists of the money they make as gurus, and they still try to claim money does not matter with women, when it is clear that it does.  One guru has even gone from telling men not to spend on women to telling them to pay for dates and buy drinks.  Every time he does this, however, he is making it more expensive for me, you, and everyone else to get laid.

The financial slut is a man who is not a friend to other men; he is a man who has a financial advantage over you in the dating game (unless you are a financial slut yourself), and won't hesitate to use that advantage to ensure that he gets laid by the women you want and you do not.  If confronted on his behavior, he will deny it, and you can be sure the women on his "payroll" will also deny it, so there is very little you can do to stop this process. 

WHAT YOU CAN DO

You cannot change women, and women will always respond to wealthy men.  You can, of course, challenge the women by showing what money can get you, and unless they want to match it, that is "proof" that women are golddiggers (otherwise, the sexual fantasy you could fill on demand with $500 would be just as easy to fill without it).  Some "challenge fox" types (see my book) might go on a mission to prove you wrong, and you'll get laid in the process.  Those who can't will take offense at you indirectly calling them golddiggers, but that is to be expected, since they usually are.

The focus of the war against financial sluttery, however, starts with the men who are financial sluts, the men who give away the store and "fund the bitchiness" of these hotties.  Here is how to put a stop to that.  If enough men stop wasting money on hotties (money for actual sex is not wasted; money for false hope of sex is), then the prices of adult entertainment would be reduced, and the quality of the women would increase.  Before this will ever happen, however, men who are not financial sluts need to begin exerting social pressure on those who are.  You owe nothing to a financial slut, because he surely doesn't care if his money hurts your game with women. 

Here is how to combat a financial slut:

1.  Don't tip strippers.  Some "game" advice is to do this to make the stripper more attractive to you.  That is not the goal here.  The goal is to turn her into a prostitute, which of course won't happen, but if enough men do this, the stripper will wonder if maybe her gravy train is crashing and start treating those who still spend on her with more respect.  Just as men don't respect sexual sluts, strippers have absolutely no respect for the customers or "regulars" or "whales" who spend thousands on them.   If you really want to confound a stripper, remind her that you can pay for sex in other countries, but you understand that the laws in this country are such that she cannot offer you that, so there's nothing you can do.

2.  Don't patronize businesses who use "hired guns."  The term "hired gun" was created by Mystery, and was written about in "The Game."  It refers to a woman who is hired, usually by a retail establishment, to attract male customers, who seem to think that by showering the hired gun with unearned money that they might get a better chance with her.  All this does, of course, is further empower her not to have sex (since she doesn't need it to trade for resources), while depleting the resources of the financial slut, and by making every man's money less valuable to her.  This harms all men.

3.  Don't hire eye candy.  You think that hot secretary you hired is going to put out?  Your better bet would have been NOT to hire her, because then she had something to gain by doing so.  Hire her as a temp, with a "possibility" of a long-term job, enough so that you can check her out without committing to a fulltime gig.  Don't make a move on her, just don't pay her or reward her until you get what you want.  Note that I am NOT endorsing sexual harassment here, but instead just explaining to men that if they are defeating their own purpose when they go about it in a financially slutty way.

4.  Ridicule wealthy men for spending on women. The wealthy financial slut is an enemy to other men.  Just as we spent Russia into bankruptcy with the arms buildup in the 1980s, thus winning the cold war, these men can spend you into bankruptcy by purchasing the attention of a hottie.  If you don't call him out for this behavior, and call women out for letting herself be bought by it, then you are letting both parties off without penalty for harming your chances of getting laid.  A man who does not fight back when his sex supply is plundered simply does not deserve to get laid.  A man who is a financial slut should understand that since he's made money part of "game" he should not expect anything free from me, including my time or any favors, since those are worth money and giving money to a financial slut reduces my economic desirability to women.

5.  NO COVER CHARGES!!  Hotties don't pay to get into bars and clubs much, and neither should you.  Every time you pay a $20 cover charge to walk into a building where the hotties are paying NOTHING to enter, you are behaving like a FINANCIAL SLUT.

6.  Get your money's worth!  Be a financial slut in a poor country, not a rich one.  Instead of dropping a load of cash in an American strip club, fly somewhere that your money goes much farther, and you'll recover the cost of the trip in no time flat.  A VIP room with a stripper in New York City can run up to $1,000 an hour, and for that price, you could get round-trip airfare to Costa Rica, two nights in a hotel, and a hooker in your room both nights who is equally attractive to the NYC stripper.  You can also use this rule as leverage with American women, who can either lower their financial requirements or prices, or learn to live without your money.  Just because other men choose to be stupid, you don't have to, and since women like smart men, they are giving that up when they chase the money held by a dumb one.  It never hurts to remind them of that.

BOTTOM LINE: if you are a financial slut, I don't want to know you or talk to you.  If you are a woman who rewards financial sluts, don't be surprised if men think you are a golddigging whore, because you are acting like one.  If you are a woman who expects me to empty my wallet just because the other men in your life are financial sluts, go spend your time with them and go get your money from them, because I have absolutely no use for you at that price. If you are hired eye candy, you are owned by your boss, and any man dumb enough to patronize the restaurant you work at and empower you financially for the opportunity to hit on you is the one you should be talking to, since you seem to value his money more than you value me or my brain.  No loss there.

Women accumulate a staggering amount of money, almost six figures annually per hottie, from the assortment of financial sluts in their lives.  They force the rest of us men to deal with these pathetic creatures, who of course see us as a threat because we are getting her attention without having to pay for it.  Date a hired gun from a law office, and watch her boss abuse her when he learns you are getting laid by her instead of him.  Game a stripper and fuck her without having to tip her, and watch the men in her club hate you for beating the system (you are also paying to get these men laid every time you tip dancers).  Patronize a retail business for a chance to talk to the counter babe and you've made her financially independent rather than someone who has to do "anything" for money.

It's time men stopped destroying ourselves as a gender.  Let's put an end to financial sluttery!!